How to Become Comfortable with the Archly UncomfortableBy Nicholas Pollak @ 3:00 PM April 30, 2012
Nicholas D. Pollak
I recently purchased a copy of Quick Books. My accountant told me I must use the program to make my overall business accounting easier. I quickly realized my accountant’s idea of easier and mine were radically different.
Until now I have been using Quicken, which is easier than a program I had used before. I changed to Quicken because of the learning curve involved in changing from my old program to the new. I was happier with my old system.
The reason is obvious. I knew my old system. I did not have to think about it, I made my entries, clicked Save and I was done. With Quicken I had to learn a new system, and to develop categories of expenses and income. Shortly, it became as familiar to me as my old system. My annoyance faded.
It reminded me again that all of us are pretty much the same. Most do not like change. Yet change is the one thing we can be certain about. Would it not be better to accept that change is inevitable and embrace it?
Why Do We Resist?
Change does not come easily because we like the way we are, without having to think. The key is, we don’t like to think. When forced, we become uncomfortable. Remember how frustrated we were when mom or dad showed us how to tie a shoelace and then expected us to do it every time? It took a few tries but we did it because the skills became a learned habit, learned through repetition.
The same principle applies to everything new in life, job, school, car, television. Each has a learning curve. We may be frustrated until we master it. In starting a new school or job, we must learn many things quickly. The most efficient way to get to our school or employer is meeting new people and finding our way around the new facility, doing what is expected and then asked of us. We must stay alert and remember what we have learned.
If you learn quickly, you will settle into new routines and soon become quite comfortable.
None of us was born with the skills we develop through life. We discovered them or had them forced upon us, but in we learned what we needed in order to be as successful as we felt we had a right to be. That can be limiting if you do not have high expectations.
How to Succeed
Our success, happiness and prosperity come from within. Each of us must determine what constitutes success and to work diligently toward it. To do that, we must know what it is, then set small goals before the ultimate goal.
We learn how to behave between the first year and twelve years old. It may surprise you to know we all still think the same way we did when we were twelve. Even though our challenges are more complex, we tend to handle them the same way as when we were twelve. Think about it for a moment and you will see the truth to this statement.
If you learned to be outgoing, energetic, inquisitive, chances are excellent you will carry the traits through your life. If you learned to be quiet, sit back and wait for others, chances are you will be that way in your adult life. In the end, though, you will not achieve what you wanted.
According to an old phrase, you are what you think. Hypnosis helps you to be what you want to be. To achieve this, you must see yourself as being what you want. Visualizing is one thing. Seeing the image and expecting it to become you without any work, however, is misguided.
After visualization comes the action necessary to gain the image. These actions and the work you do create the image you want, the multiple small goals you set for yourself en route to creating the larger objective of success, happiness and prosperity.
Within all of this is learning your constructive new habits. Though uncomfortable at first, they soon become normal. As with the shoelaces, your new self-image and the constructive habit patterns you wanted have been accomplished.